Right now I’m working both jobs. I’m working my old job a lot and my new job a very little (kind of a getting to know you period). This means that I’m busier than usual, which is already kinda busy. I also put three four freelance projects to bed last [...]
Madison was hating me like crazy yesterday. She had three full fits and in every single one she hated me.
“I hate you! I hate mama!” she railed. “I’m going to live with Pennie!”
By the end of the day, I was sick of hearing it.
“Madison!” I hollered back. “I am tired [...]
The folks at VitaClay sent me a Natural Stone Cookier to test out. Review below the cut!
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Popped open Huffington Post today and found out that Gwyneth Paltrow and I have some of the same decorating ideas. She recommends personalized prints by the artist Ida Pearle and it just so happens that I cut up this book to frame around Madison’s room in her [...]
Roy Mustang is a character in Full Metal Alchemist, which is Noah’s manga of choice at the moment (and at the center of some of his Christmas requests). Earlier today Noah came out of his room and said, “Did you know Roy Mustang [...]
Brett used to have a GPS on loan from his job and he loved it, oh how he loved it! The kids and I named it Veronica and referred to it as “Daddy’s girlfriend, Veronica.”
I happened upon a sweet deal on a new GPS and after consulting with Noah, decided [...]
David, may this day be the start of a beautiful, beautiful year. Happy birthday!
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Gratuitous siblinghood
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My family both immediate and extended with a special prayer of thanks for my husband for putting up with me (but then I put up with him so I’d say it’s an even trade).
My mentors who have helped and continued to help me figure out this elusive [...]
November 24, 2009
First name of Teacher here,
I wanted to take a moment and ask for some clarification regarding the policy around water bottles and bathroom use in your classroom.
Yesterday, Emily arrived home complaining of a sore throat. My first thought is that [...]
I haven’t read The Road and I’m not going to and — looking at the trailer — I’m not going to see the movie either. It scares the hell out of me.
I’ve always had apocalyptic dreams although they went up a notch in my teens. The [...]
1. Got heads up on a project to try out for that has me kind of excited. I like the start of things — the research and planning and learning something new. I love it!
2. I wrote a guest post on the Bitch blog on (surprise!) [...]
We went over to Pennie’s house yesterday to celebrate her birthday and Madison said, “Mommy, would you feel bad if I thought Pennie was prettier than you?”
And I said, “Of course.”
No, I said, “Nope, I think Pennie’s beautiful.”
And she said, “Oh, OK. I think Pennie’s prettier than you are.”
She is, [...]
This is a topic that is very timely for me (Thanksgivingmom) right now, but is something that all of us in open adoption deal with at least once during the year: birthdays.I know that birthdays can be an extremely emotional time, for everyone connected to adoption, not [...]
I didn’t get a response but Abby got one and then she forwarded the post that went out to the whole list.
It was just been brought to our attention, that this year’s UWWG t-shirt logo design appears to some to be depicting a black clown and thus offending some as [...]
Because I am cheap and because my budget is tight and because I hate malls with the power of 1000 hot burning suns and because Allyo was talking about downsizing her toy stash, I decided to host a used toy/book/clothes exchange the Saturday after Thanksgiving.
This is how it’s going [...]
I was going to try to write a post about being an over-thinker but I couldn’t make it funny. Let’s just say I know I think about things too much but that’s how I like it. If I thought about ‘em less, I’d have a lot less fun in the [...]
A friend of mine is looking for support around her need to find her child a residential treatment center for mental health issues. My friend adopted her child in a situation that is very similar to foster-to-adopt and their adoption is open as safety allows. She has been a helpful [...]
Its been a tough week at our house - and No, not just because we are all stuffy and overtired. Although that certainly hasn't helped.
No - most of the drama is about Emily and her "friends". Or who isn't her friend. Or who is, but shouldn't' [...]
I’ll say right up front that I think the racism that I see (indeed the little monkey clown thing) is unintentional. I betcha the t-shirt was designed by a kid and I am 99.9% sure that the kid [...]
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When I was a kid our house lived at the top of a hill. I would ride down the hill so that I could cross the backyards of our neighbors by the river and head into 4500. This was the neighborhood next to ours with sprawling properties including a Victorian [...]
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I also walk around wondering how “everyone else” manages to cook from scratch, wrangle toddlers, get writing time, get family time, and work on top of it. What’s funny is that I had you squarely in the “Everyone else” category–I’m always amazed at everything you manage to get [...]
My original plan was to use this month to do some soul searching only I haven’t had time to do any soul searching, which is one of the things I wanted to search my soul about. I have not been happy, oh dear internets, for what feels like a long [...]
I forgot to update my blog yesterday so I officially tanked on NaNoBloMo. But I’m not going to let that stop me! I’m gonna pick myself right back up and act like it never happened although I was thisclose to forgetting to update today, too. (What can I say — [...]
Except for using it to watch Hulu while I did Madison’s hair this morning and getting a surprise lecture on VD by Bill Cosby courtesy of Fat Albert. After I got done laughing, I posted it to facebook. You can see the clip here. Awesomeness!
I’m trying to get a [...]
Skila and Tatjana both asked about openness in international adoptions in regards to my Roundtable post. Specifically, should adoptive parents push for openness? Tatjana said:
This is very much the predominant point of view re searching for birth families of internationally adopted children here in NL due to *very [...]
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Note Madison’s stuffed to the limit cheeks!!!!)
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This round we’re going to consider one critique of fully open adoptions. Have you ever heard–or perhaps even made–statements like these?
“We have medical histories and can share the information we have about their birth parents with our children now. If they feel a need to initiate [...]I’m making banana waffles for the kids right now and clearing out my work inbox at the same time. (That’s why waffles are nicer than pancakes when you’re multitasking — more downtime between waffle rounds.) Our kitchen is well-stocked even though we’re only a few days away from the end [...]
Another tooth down! Click for full gorgeousness!!
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It’s only the third day of NaNoBloPo and here I am already thisclose to flaking. When in doubt, list post!
Madison is “cleaning” up the floor with her bed pillow. She’s sliding down the hall on it and she says it’s picking up the dirt. Awesomeness. Really it’s a help because [...]That’s what Madison has taken to calling Pennie. She says, “You know, my real real mama.” When she talks about her adoption, she says, “It’s hard to miss your real real mama.” They were talking about adoption on Arthur today (you know, for National Adoption Month and all) and she [...]
I think I’ll make this a monthly thing.
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Even though I am still sick sick sick (and sick) and so not thinking very straight (and can’t talk at all — my voice is gone) I wanted to chime in on this over at Letters to a Birthmother:
Despite our firm belief that overall openness is a good thing–the right [...]
I’ve shared my most favorite open adoption picture before but I’m sharing it again because it’s just that good.
This is a picture of Madison asking Pennie about her birth three years ago. That’s 2-year old Madison there in her spooky Halloween shirt and there’s Pennie growing out her hair [...]
My mom and niece are both out with the same thing (ridiculously sore throat) and we were all eating cake together on Sunday so I think it’s something new. Madison is growling over on the couch about the state of the world so I’ll be watching her closely, too, since [...]
I’ve written here before that Madison has become afraid of bridges. Brett got her a book from the library that showed her how bridges are built to reassure her that they’re safe. She was kind of convinced until they got to the picture of the wooden bridge that was all [...]
They changed the rules and now it’s about the most compelling comment (I don’t think the most comments, I think the most compelling comment) to decide who wins, which means maybe I have a chance to donate a thousand bucks to [...]
I’m trying to find two papers I wrote for history classes way back when to send back to the professor. She agreed to write me a recommendation for grad school and asked to see any old blue books or research papers I had and I haven’t been able to find [...]
It’s making the rounds of the adoption blogs.
There is a child who needs a home because his current home is no longer safe. This child has hurt his sisters and his family can’t keep him there and keep their other children safe. This is not a case of not bonding [...]
I am relieved that I don’t have to click buttons anymore or ask you all to click buttons. When I get the results, I’ll let you know. I am totally hung over on the vestiges of this cold and not thinking all that clearly right now (working on my third [...]
An adoptive mom on my facebook said in response to my “vote for me” post, “Are there any moderates in this contest?” Because she thinks I’m a little extreme.
I know that theoretically people see me as extreme but I swear to goodness, I think I’m pretty even-handed.
Not that I would [...]
If I have to have one more discussion about vaginal mucous and its consistency, frequency, color or texture I may have to kill myself. [...] First let me say that I love Mount Carmel West. Love them. They went above and beyond for Madison. A special shout out to childbirth educator Marie for calling yesterday to make sure she had all of our complicated details straight. Madison just now said, “I want to go back [...]
Edited to add: Thanks so much for the excellent feedback!!! I did end up finding the fabulous history teacher I had (history of feminism, FTW!) and she said she’d write it for me! Hooray!
So I’m working on getting my stuff together for grad school (haven’t scheduled the GRE yet — [...]
Madison is going to visit the hospital where she was born this Thursday. She’s going for her big sister tour because this is also the hospital where her baby brother Roscoe will be born a week from Friday. (A week from Friday!!!!!!!! So excited!!)
Madison has wanted to visit the hospital [...]
Because really, what do I have to whine about? That I have a job? That my friends don’t understand every subtle nuance of my life? (As if I understand every subtle nuance of theirs?)
Gratitude list:
Fab husband Fab kids Often fab job (although sometimes annoying as is a job’s wont) Fab family Fab friends (if [...]
I really did. Brett is Lloyd Dobbler without the kick-boxing and maybe just a little more awkward.
I have this theory about relationships, which is that only one person can be a star at a time and that a good relationship [...]
Brett’s hours got cut again so he’s now working about 24 hours a week and our budget can’t sustain it. So he’s looking for supplementary work in the hopes that his friend’s business bounces back and he can go back to full-time. When he took the job there was over-time, [...]
Maryanne (in the comment to the post previous) said:
In reading a little about homeschooling, I’ve gotten the (probably skewed) impression that most homeschoolers are Christian Fundamentalists, which you are not. Do you have to deal with these people and materials in the homeschooling world or are you totally on your [...]
Compared with pre-Roe days, today women with unplanned pregnancies have access to far more information about their alternatives. However, Fessler says, they frequently encounter CPCs that pressure them to give the child to a family with better resources. “Part of the big picture for a young woman who’s pregnant,” she [...]
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I just keep thinking about this as a writer and as a (small-time) activist. I want to understand the universal in my specifics and I want to understand when I’m mistakenly extending my experience to other people.
I was thinking on this after I read momartfully’s excellent [...]
You all know that I love homeschooling — that it jives with my values and it (so far) meets my kids’ needs. But I’ve been thinking on how much privilege it takes to be a homeschooler and thinking about how I need to acknowledge that. Because we homeschoolers can get [...]
In case you were wondering — it’s going sucky, thanks. I’m telling you this to reassure you in case your exercise routine is also going sucky because I’m running anyway and that’s supposed to be the encouraging part.
At the beginning I was having regular progress despite these lousy shin splints [...]
Like the rest of the United States, my mind is heading to back to school even though no one who lives in my house is going back to school this fall. Thing is, even if you homeschool it’s impossible not to hearken back to your own schooling memories or get [...]
Someone emailed me late last night looking for either money or publicity or both in her fight for custody of her daughter. Although technically the child isn’t her daughter yet because the adoption cannot be finalized because the first dad is fighting the adoption.
The situation is (according to a-mom) worst [...]
(This was a review by request)
Ok, so go see Madison reviewing the Vtech Bugsby Learning System, which she finds very amusing. I don’t love the electronic toys (except for my iPod) but I don’t think they’re evil incarnate either so when they offered to send her one, I said [...]
Tami at Anti-Racist Parent is working hard on a revamp of the site and wants your input! Please take the time to fill out her survey and let her know what you want to see at the blog! Note: Even if you’ve never ever ever looked at the blog she [...]
Noah is hanging out with friends today so it’s just Madison and me. Right now she’s watching her PBS shows and eating frozen grapes (her new favorite snack). Even though it’s humid — even down here in our basement — she’s got a blanket over her because she likes to [...]
I’m angry at Madison’s birth dad. I’m not just angry, I’m furious.
There are three relationships with him in my life. Madison’s, Pennie’s and my own. (Brett is totally shut down about it — he gratefully gives over all emotional care for this stuff to me because it’s way too much [...]
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In yesterday’s spate of picture making, Madison also drew a picture of her two families. She drew herself with Pennie, Tommy and Roscoe and she drew herself with Brett, Noah and me. She also drew a picture of Roscoe and herself standing on either side of Pennie and me.
Pennie and [...]
Madison drew a bunch of pictures today. She drew a really cute one of Pennie holding Roscoe in a sling. Then she drew one of us all lined up — Madison, Pennie, me and Roscoe. Then one of Pennie and Tommy getting married flanked by Roscoe and Madison. And then [...]
I can’t shake the cotton wool clouding up my brain and so seems like every thing work-related is taking longer. I think I’ve developed allergies as an adult because I keep getting a sore throat these days and sometimes when I’m running I start to wheeze and sometimes I don’t [...]
This is continued from the last post!
Heather asked, “Are you including every point in time pre-birth/placement as part of the decision making phase?”
Yes, pre-birth, yes. Because once the baby is born, a woman will have to remake her decision.
Now this doesn’t mean that we can’t take a woman at [...]
I’ve been intrigued by the Infant Adoption Training Initiative for a long time. This is from their About page:
The curriculum developed by the Infant Adoption Training Initiative, Understanding Infant Adoption (UIA) is designed to train health care professionals how to provide adoption information and referral to pregnant women. The [...]
There are three things that influenced my feminist childhood: My mom, Phil Donahue (another post for another time) and Ms. Magazine.
My mom was a charter subscriber to Ms. Magazine. I grew up reading Stories for Free Children and scanning the letters for the [...]
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